• Jackie Brubaker

Relationships Are Like Cake

I recently heard the expression "relationships are like cake" and my ears perked up. Not only am I fascinated by people and why they do what they do, but I also love cake and my pavlovian response was all to ready at the helm. So, I decided to do a little research into how relationships are like cake.

While not every article I read was the same, they all had different and interesting ways of making a "cake". So, I've taken some of their advice and altered the recipe some to create my own recipe for the perfect relationship cake.


With all relationships two people need to go into the relationship with an idea of what kind of cake they'd like to make. This is your recipe. You both start to talk about what you'd like to accomplish in a relationship, what kind of style of life you'd like to live, if you plan to have kids, if you'd like to live abroad. You get the idea. What does your idea of marriage look like in your recipe?


After you've decided on your recipe, be it a raspberry chocolate truffle cake or a carrot cake with cream cheese frosting you've got to get to creating it! Take your different ingredients which are the parts that make you both unique and most likely attracted you to each other and combine them to make the perfect recipe that works for you both. Be true to yourself while still allowing for compromise. Don't become flour if you're actually sugar. If you try to please others without being yourself you're going to end up with a cake you hate and no one's going to want it.


Then it's time to turn up the heat and bake this baby! The oven represents the tough or "heated" times in your relationship. Instead of feeling like your cake is going to burn when presented with pressure or difficulty instead focus on how these tough times have the opportunity to strengthen you both as a couple as you work through things. If you can make it through the fire and come out on the other side you're sure to have a delicious cake waiting for you!


Then there's the icing. Icing is great and we all love it, but it's put sparingly on a cake for a reason. Icing is seen as just that, the icing on top, the sticky sweet, infatuation, lust, what makes you forget everything and fly to Vegas. While it's great to have icing and needed in a healthy relationship it can't be there all of the time. Too much icing can make you sick. If it were, you'd probably stop eating icing for good, like tequila.

I hope this cute little tutorial shed some light on a new relationship you may have found yourself in or as a reminder of what's important for the next relationship or even current one! It's important to remember that once a cake is baked that doesn't mean you won't have to make the cake again within the relationship. The oven is not a one and done kind of thing. As people change your taste can change and it's important that your reassess your recipe and make the necessary changes to keep your cake tasting great at all stages of your relationship. It's rare that one person can eat the same cake all of their life. But, with mutual understanding and flexibility you can both grow and evolve your recipe as you grow in love.

Just for fun, below is one of my favorite cake recipes for you to make. Lot's of love and cake to you!


Reluctant Housewife

Flourless Chocolate Cake

1 cup semisweet chocolate chips

1/2 cup unsalted butter

3/4 cup granulated sugar

1/4 tsp salt

1 tsp vanilla extract

3 large eggs

1/2 hershey's special dark cocoa powder

Preheat your oven to 375 degrees. Cut a piece of parchment paper to lay flat in your 8 inch round pan. Spray butter on the sides of your pan and set aside.

Use a glass bowl and place over a pot filled with about two inches of water. Bring water to a boil. This is how you create double boiler if you were wondering what I was talking about or what a double boiler actually is. Place your chocolate chips and butter inside of the glass bowl and continue to stir until melted. Once melted transfer to a mixing bowl.

Stir in your sugar, salt, and vanilla. Add the eggs and beat until smooth. Then add your cocoa powder and mix until smooth.

Pour your batter into your pan. Place in the oven for 22-25 minutes.

Once baked, slide a knife along the edges of your cake and flip over onto a plate or cake stand. Dust with powdered sugar.

Poof! The best and most delicious cake of your life.

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